Many
people want to be successful in life, but it’s easier said than done.
There are so many things that can be challenging to discipline one’s
self to accomplish a goal. By keeping the following advice
in mind, you can increase your chances of becoming successful in
whatever you choose to pursue in life.
In this post, I am going to give you the three methods on how to be successful in life.
Method 1:
· Imagining you becoming successful. The more accurately you imagine your success, the easier it will be for the rest of yourself to follow through. The same way Thomas Edisonfirst imagined and invented first commercially practical incandescent light.
· Dedicate
a few minutes every day to imagining your success. Imagine sitting like
a king and swimming in success. Savor the feeling of your success, and
use it as motivation to stoke the fire in you.
· Always
cultivate a healthy motivation when imagining your success. Know that
successful people all believe in themselves and their missions.
Understand that other people want to be just as successful as you do and
your goal should not be to trample over them to get what you want.
1. Find the goal of your life. Find
and identify the things you love to do, the things that gives you joy
and satisfaction. Once you find and identify what you love to do or the
things that gives you joy and satisfaction, use this information to find
the purpose of your life or the objective of your life.
· Finding
what you love to do will give you motivation along the way. Imagine
being forced to study medicine when your true passion is computer
science. Now imagine if Michael Jackson’s parents forced him to go into
boxing, what would have his life been today? Or if Mike Tyson’s parents
forced to go into singing?, his could have a hell .How do you figure out
a purpose or goal in life? It’s different for everyone, and for some
it’s difficult, but there are several ways you can try to figure it out:
· Search for career coaches online for advice or join some online career forums
· Try
making a career out of something you love. Whether it’s singing or
dancing, you’re more likely to be successful doing something you know
you love.
·
· Try out several different careers, remembering that even a less-than-falling job can help you learn.
2. Lower your confidence.
It’s a truism in business that you need to have high self-confidence to
get things done, but some people think, and for good reason that lower
self-confidence makes people more successful, for these reasons:
· Lower
self-confidence makes you pay good attention to critical feedback and
helps you be more self-critical. Like If you’re convinced you’re God’s
gift to engineering, you probably won’t be receptive to feedback, nor
will you be able to criticize yourself effectively.
· Lower
self-confidence makes you less narcissistic and less narcissistic
people are respected more by co-workers, and know that happy co-workers
make a more successful team. It’s no secret that respect will make you
successful.
· Lower
self-confidence will makes you work harder and prepare more. If you’re
not convinced you’re going to nail your presentation next meeting,
you’re likely to spend more time. This is a great habit.
3. Define the meaning of success as you see it. You
cannot have success if you do not know what it means for you and you
cannot also have success if you don’t aim higher. Everyone views success
differently and using someone else’s standard for success is like
eating another person’s food and expecting to love it. Always set clear
goals and be realistic.
· How
will you know when you have achieved your goals? Your standards should
be quantifiable, or else you could spend your entire life chasing after a
vague goal.
· For example, let’s say you want to be good at your job. You get a promotion, but
you still haven’t reached your goal because you could always do better,
right? You could always get promoted even further, or make even more
money.
· Instead,
create benchmarks: “My goal is to increase my productivity by 40% and
only be late for work four times per year.” These are quantifiable goals
that when achieved, give you a sense of satisfaction, making you feel
successful.
4. Set a good timeline for when you want to achieve your goal. If
you don’t know when you will achieve your goal, then it’s hard to know
whether you have crumbled or failed. Give yourself a good timeline that
is difficult but doable. Winning a Tour de France from scratch in two
years is not reasonable, but booking a comedy gig in front of at least
20 paying customers probably is.
5. Identify the things, skills, material needed in order to achieve your goals. If
you want to be a famous software developer you need to always learn and
create new codes, create usable software like video games, android
apps, iPhone apps etc. you need to have passion for software . This is
identifying short term objectives to achieve long term goals.
6. Identify the skills you can outsource. Outsourcing
is mostly all about time-management. You may think of yourself as a
superman or superwoman, but there are limits to your powers. Outsourcing
certain less essential tasks gives you more time to focus on the things
that are absolutely essential to your craft.
· Just
use the last example as a template; to become a great software
developer, you need to spend more time on learning and cracking of
codes, creating of software because these are the basic skills needed
for software developer. But if you are lacking new or latest programming
codes, you can try to outsource them to an expert. This is called
working smart. Many software developers don’t create their own software;
they focus on branding software developed by unknown software
developers.
Method 2:
1. Execute your small objectives and focus on your main objective. Never
found useless reasons to procrastinate. Jump your headfirst into the
challenge and start chipping away. You never know what problems will
present themselves before you step into the arena.
· Break
your goal into small steps. Does the goal of starting an auto company
seem impossibly unattainable? Break it down into smaller goals. Focus on
streamlining your idea; then focus on getting funding; then move onto
building a prototype, etc. If you have the vision to attack your goal
piece by piece, it’s easier and less daunting to execute.
2. Stay away from disturbance and distractions as much as possible. Distraction can be a thing that prevents someone from concentrating on something else,
depending on your perspective. But let’s be clear: it’s almost
impossible to be 100% focused on your task 100% of the time and
distractions are okay in low doses. But when your goals start taking a
backseat to petty distractions, it’s time to sack or banish them.
3. Always surround yourself with other people who are successful. When
you’re surrounded with people who are highly-successful, it’s
encouraging. You can get ideas good ideas from them, and they can even
connect you with other people. Surrounding yourself with successful
people is a way to create a culture of success. Be obedient to them
because an Igbo proverb said that if you worship a king, you will inherit it
· Study
successful people. Look around, who has the success that you envision
for yourself? What are they doing? How do they approach life? Ask them
for advice; Model some of your approaches around theirs, if possible.
Knowledge is as free as it is powerful in life.
4. Find a mentor. A mentor is an experienced and trusted adviser
or someone, usually with a bit more experience than you, who knows the
trade, offers advice, and helps you in your pursuit. Behind many
successful people are mentors. Mentors get satisfaction out of knowing
that their guidance has literally bred success.
· A mentor will help you:
· Troubleshoot.
Troubleshooting is learning about how to make ideas or applications
even better. Your mentor can help you figure out what you need to change
in order to make your idea(s) better.
· Strategize.
A mentor will probably have more vision than you because s/he has been
in the game before you, with more successes and failures.
· Network.
Networking is making connections with people who have connections. You
offer expertise, opinion, or opportunity to someone in exchange for
something back.
5. Trust other people to do their job. It’s
very hard to be successful if you don’t trust the people around you.
Being successful is partly about assembling an able team around you. If
you can’t trust others enough to let them do their job, you probably
won’t succeed at that.
· Trust
in people because trust can be an incredibly motivating factor. If you
trust in someone, they’ll want to do well because they want to reward
your trust in them.
· Trust
in people because you need to. As John Donne wrote, “No man is an
island.” This is true. what he meant by this is that no man works alone.
We depend on other people, whether we like it or not. Placing trust in
other people is a necessity, not an option.
6. Gather as much information as you can. Listen,
Study, Understand, Learn and Repeat. Humans beings are amazing
creatures because we can look at the world, make intellectual
connections, and use those connections to make our lives. This is what
information allows us to do. Never turn your “learning switch” off. You
never know when your flash of insight will come.
8. Take calculated risks.
Successful people think big and act big. Don’t wait for opportunities
to fall in your lap. Sniff them out. Successful people make big
investments in their careers, in their businesses, in their education
and all investments involve risk. Study your risks, make sure the odds
are in your favor, and take a leap. These are the two calculated risks
to consider:
· Partner
with a competitor. Whether you’re rolling out back-end solutions to
technology giants, partnering with the competitor may help you pool your
resources, motivate you to work harder, and build new relationships.
· Lead,
don’t follow. Leading the way can be dangerous. You’re taking on the
headwinds literally, perhaps, or you’re banking on an idea like yahoo or
Google that someone has already tried before. Summon up the courage to
do something different.
9. Always solve problems.
No matter where you are or what you’re doing, look around and try and
think of ways you can contribute. What are people struggling with or
complaining about? How can you make life easier for them in an effective
way? Can you re-organize some aspect of the situation so things run
more smoothly? Can you provide a service that fills a critical gap?
· Which problems are you motivated to solve?
· Social problems. Facebook reinvented the way we interact with one another. Can you think of a similar social problem that needs reinventing?
· Strategic problems. Consultants
like IBM help other companies and individuals become more productive,
profitable, and prudent. Can you help someone else solve a strategic
problem?
· Interpersonal problems. Psychologists
and marriage counselors help other people navigate the complex web of
personal relationships that make up our lives. Can you help people
better get along with one another?
10. Use technology and don’t let it use you. Technology
can be incredibly powerful; it connects us with people around the world
in the blink of an eye; it computes algorithms accurately and quickly;
it makes mundane tasks, like data entry, easier and less painful. But
technology can be a burden if you let it. It can sap your energy and
productivity, leading to wasted time and opportunity
Method 3:
1. Be persistent.
What will define you is how you pick yourself up after you’ve fallen.
Don’t give up. If your first attempt didn’t work, don’t quit don’t you
ever quit. Like Thomas Edison that said that he failed 10,000 times but didn’t give up and now he is one of the highest inventor in America and the world.
· Don’t let failure define you. When asked about his 10,000 failed attempts to develop a storage battery, the American inventor Thomas Edisonresponded: “I have not failed; I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.”
· Learn
from your failures. Each failure is an opportunity to learn. If you
make a mistake and refuse to learn, you’ll make that same mistake
sometime down the line. If you make a mistake and learn from it, you
won’t waste your time making the same mistakes again.
· Don’t
make excuses. Don’t rationalize your failure by placing the blame on
someone or something else. Always accept when something is your fault.
This will help you identify what you need to change in order to get
better because” an excuse after failure is a refusal to make the
situation better.”
2. Remember that success does not guarantee happiness. Your
success is equated with achieving your goal, but don’t assume it will
always bring you happiness. Many people make the mistake by saying that
if they accomplish this or that, they’ll be happier. Fulfillment and
satisfaction have a lot more to do with how you approach life than with what you do in life.
· Value
experiences over objects. Human beings can be extraordinarily obsessed
with money. It’s strange, too, because scientists think that
experiences, with their memory, make us happier than objects we can buy
with money. Focus on making great memories with great people along the
way, and you should be happy.
3. Remove fear and doubt from your way of thinking. Focus
on staying positive in every situation. You will be surprised how
effective you can be when your thoughts are guiding your actions, not
the other way around. If you fail, don’t be fearful about starting over;
be happy as if you’ve been given a chance to be even more successful.
4. Accept that life is unfair. It’s
just the fact. You can moan about it and wish that it were different or
you can go out there and do something about it. So stop wasting time
about the unfairness of it all and think how to use the situation for
your benefit. Just look, Newton could have complained about the apple
falling down the tree could hit his head. Instead, he identified the law
of gravity and he is now known as the father of physics.
Notes:
· Not
everyone in the world will be happy for you and your success. Some
people are jealous. So, be prepared for them, and look past them until
you find the people who are happy for you and who support you in all
that you do.
· There is not any shortcut for success; it’s just the result of preparation, hardworking and learning from failure.
· Success
does not just come alone, it takes consistency and determination. Doing
something once won’t make a huge difference; it’s when you do that one
thing many times over before you can achieve success.
· The key to becoming successful is finding one thing that you love and mastering that one thing
· Trust yourself and believe in your abilities.
· . Always be humble because too much pride will always be your downfall.
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